Not only is your child affected by the abuse, but so are you, you are a secondary survivor. Post-disclosure (after your child has told someone about the abuse) can be a chaotic, painful and possibly overwhelming time. As a parent / carer you may find that you go through many different emotions yourself.
You may also:
These are natural and normal responses; you too have gone into survival mode because you are a secondary survivor.
Attempting to parent a traumatised child when you are in trauma yourself can be frightening, challenging and very tiring.
This is not being selfish, it is vital. This is so that you have the emotional capacity to support your child.
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